Has any one ever qualified your beauty as inside and outside and you thought that was a polite way of saying you’re not physically attractive? 🙋
Do you know what my inside looks like? Just say you don’t think i’m attractive but you still love me.
You do not see a beautifully attractive, I mean flawless human being and describe them as having beauty on the inside, do you? You tell them they’re beautiful, no need to specify what kind.
I believe there is truly something like ‘beauty on the inside’. I also would prefer we didn’t try to compensate by including ‘…and outside’ because the point we’re honestly trying to make is that we think the individual has depth in their persona.
Appreciating someone beyond what you can see with your eyes culminates in you being pleased with their exterior as well, so it’s not entirely wrong to find someone attractive inside and out.
However when we’re giving complement we have to be as honest as possible because, believe it or not, the complementee (sic) knows when you’re just famzing.
Next time you want to celebrate a loved one you respect and admire but you don’t think they have the best set of dentition, facial structure and/or skin condition, just say it as it is,
I love your character and personality, I love how intelligent you are, you’re such a beautiful spirited individual.
Also when you only find what your eyes are seeing appealing, say it as it is, no need to add the ‘beauty on the inside’ part to balance your complement.
Now, you receiving the complements what should you care about more? Why shouldn’t you feel ugly when you only get the ‘beauty specification’ kind of complement?
Remember this scripture,
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
(1 Peter 3:3-4 NIV)