My name is Otibhor, meaning ‘Joy giver’.The later part is pronounced as in ‘abhor’. I was born late 1992 in a town, south of Nigeria. I’m not where I’ve hoped to be in life, and I’ve not achieved most of my goals. I’m predominantly choleric, but I also have phleg in there. I’m a strong introvert, I like my personal space, peace and quiet. I like listening to myself think.
I’ve failed a good number of times, but I always fail forward. I defeat my fears one day at a time and so I can say I’m not afraid of anything.
I’m a dreamer. I’m a learner. I’m naïve, shy and I like to speak big grammar. I’ve hit rock bottom before so i’m not afraid of being knocked down. I can be perky and I can be moody. My smile is hideous you can’t just look away.
I’ve been so afraid in the past that I literally almost died from it. Now, I’ve chosen to have no fears. I just won’t let dread rip away my joy.
I’m about bringing light to someone in this dark world. My purpose is to ‘reconcile men….’ back to God’s original design. I’m a believer, can get inspired by the littlest thing. I believe in myself and I believe in the unseen.
There’s a specific type of future I want for myself and I can’t settle for less.
I’m never going to try to be anyone else. I will dig deep into me, because I know I’m complete. I wont compete ‘cos i’m one of a kind.
I speak pidgin English a lot. I have crazy fantasies. I easily crush over guys that appeal to my fantasies. I talk faster than I think often. I feel awkward when i’m interacting with people every now and then, especially when you say something and I didn’t hear it but I don’t want to ask you to repeat. I’m a hugger and a smiler. I’m mostly quiet but truly it’s because people don’t always get me when I start talking. I’m weird.
I believe in chastity and I know kissing is fore-play, it’s not a casual show of affection.
I don’t believe in luck.
I’m still mastering stage fright so I won’t jump at an opportunity to stand before a group even though I want the world to listen to me. I’m goal-oriented and i’m a go getter. I don’t quit, i’m often obstinate and stubborn and I can argue my points to the last even though I will later discover I was arguing blindly.
I’ve been single most of my life and i’m quite comfortable with it, I would only marry if I find my man. I believe there’s ‘Mr Right’ I’m just not so sure of ‘Mr. Perfect’. You may actually ruin our friendship by switching to the romantic side. If I like you as a guy, you will know because i’m going to blush profusely every time and stalk you. If you’re not sure i’m attracted to you then I’m not. My relationship with males are no much different from the one I have with females because I grew up with boys.
I’m a lover; I love genuinely. I’m quick to fall in love. I only know one kind of love. God’s love. So when I tell you ‘I love you’ be sure it’s the real thing no matter your gender.
I believe ‘gender’ is a better word for ‘male or female’. Using ‘Sex’ produces a slight conflict in response and that can be awkward. I often say the word, ‘sex’ to myself repeatedly so that it doesn’t get stuck in my mouth when I need to say it. It is a heavy word, forgive me but I didn’t exactly grow up with my parents throwing the word around, we had our own word. I’m just starting to learn how to say ‘sex’ and not squirm. That’s me. I won’t pretend to be hard core.
Oh, I’m not a kid. I’m 23. Grown up. But yes, I can be childish.
Let me tell you a secret . Jesus Christ is the only thing real to me in this life.
I’m going to stay true to who I am no matter what. Not gonna change in a hurry. Not gonna pretend or lead a double life, gonna be me. Gonna be courageous till the end- stick to my genes.
What about you?
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